Care In Nursing Homes

I have already started writing one post about the

"CARE IN NURSING HOMES" and as I said I
will be writing on this from time to time and as
much as I feel I need to and also from the feed back
I get from others out there on this subject!


As I have already written my mother is in a
nursing home and when we first put her in the
one she's in now it was REALLY A LIFE SAVER!


Because I had to transfer her from the very first one
she had to be put in and I am here to tell you IT WAS
SO AWFUL! "I WOULD NOT PUT A DEAD
ANIMAL IN THAT NURSING HOME MUCH LESS
MY WORST ENEMY!" (THIS IS GOD'S TRUTH!!!!)


With that being said, I do need to be HONEST about this
one she's in now. As I said when she first went there this
place was truly a life saver for her! Mother has now been
there going on two years and over the course of this time,
this nursing home has changed hands/companies. I know
nothing about the new people/company and have never
been offered any information on them, about them, from
them, or even met them!


This little and I do mean little/small nursing home has only
about 44/46 bed capacity I think it is. This is or was of the
best reasons my family and I really liked it, because you
could get to know the people and by that I mean not only
the nurses, aids, office personnel, resident/patience's,
Physical therapist but the house keeping staff, kitchen staff,
etc; and the other families (if they were so inclined).


This way you feel like you are doing everything you are able
to do for your family member that has to be in a nursing
facility of any type for any reason, you want to get to know
as many people as you can or are able so you can help with
one another for so many reasons but because it's the right
thing to do.


Well getting back to our little nursing home, as I said it
started off as a LIFE SAVER for mother, but over time it
has gone DOWN SEVERAL STEPS now compared to what
it use to be! They have always had problems with the kitchen
from day one that we brought mother in, do not know why,
can't understand why there has always been the problem of the
food always being late, 98% of the time it's cold! It's either not
cooked right, by that I mean it is not cooked all the way, or over
cooked, to tough, to hard, or just not eatable for most of the
residents there to eat! 98% of the residence complain about
the food 97% of the time but nothing gets done about it!


My dad and I have even complained several times and have
been told the problem was been worked on, but we have not
seen any thing fixed yet! (that's not to say the people
preparing the food aren't nice...they just can't COOK!)


They have a few nurses and med. aids that are there that do
know their job and how to do their job and actually like their
job (are they give a very good impression of it anyway). Then
they have a few that so not need to be nursing a DEAD FISH!
That DO NOT NEED TO BE THERE...THAT ARE THERE
BECAUSE THEY ARE A FRIEND TO SOME ONE THAT
WORKS THERE OR EVEN A FRIEND OF A FRIEND
THING! These people do not need to be there, they are very
disruptive, they think they run the whole show.


It will be done their way or not at all and the PAIN AND
STRESS, THE CHAOS, THE BACK STABBING, THE
LYING, THEY BRING IN WITH THEM IS SO UNREAL,
THEY NEED THEIR LICENSE REVOKED! THE VERY
UN - PROFESSIONALISM THAT WREAKS FROM
THESE PEOPLE IS SO WRONG, THEY ARE MASTER
MANIPULATORS AND INTIMIDATORS AND THEY USE
EVERY WEAPON THEY CAN GET THEIR HANDS
ON OR THEIR MOUTH AND WILL COME IN AND
LITERALLY DESTROY A PLACE IN NO TIME!


So as you can probably tell that is ONE OF THE big things
happening now where mother is at, this one particular so called
nurse has caused a mud-slide since she's been there and it has
caused a run away snow ball effect in several areas and people
are being HURT BY IT/HER!


Yes, there has been complaints on her and she is still there, guess
it's going to take going to the owners and the state of Texas to
get her out!

It's awful how when they get good people in there to
work, they will not keep most of them around very long, for some
reason, they had rather have the lazy, lying, ones that do not care
around instead of the the ones that are good, and the good people
that are there working and just keep hanging on are the ones that
need to be kept and treated a lot better than they are...these God
loving people work their butts off every day here and are not treated
as they should be. These God loving people honestly love these
residence/patience they help everyday, these God loving people
are sincere and caring, they do their jobs and don't just stand around
and see how they can hurt someone else.


I wish I could name names of the all of the GOOD ONES here
at this nursing home, but I can't or I won't at this point because
of this other person still being there and the real problems she
would love to cause for some of the ones I would name.


What is TRULY SO SAD IT WOULDN'T TAKE MUCH AT
ALL TO GET THIS PLACE TO A1 SHAPE, just get rid of the
trash, get someone in the kitchen that can cook right for the
residence there and what they can eat and it be hot and on time,
and keep the good people that they have left there and hire back
the ones they have lost.

Not every nursing home can say that...not every nursing home
can fix the biggest problems they have that quickly...not every
nursing home has these few problems! Not every nursing home
would have so many people going to bat for it at any given time!


There are nurses aids in all of the nursing home facilities that
come and go, they make the rounds to all of them especially in the
areas they live in. The reasons for this varies, but when you get
GOOD nurses aids, you need to do what you can to keep them,
because these type of people are very far and few between...they a
re a very RARE BREED! These loving people honestly love
what they do, they love caring for the elderly and they are
very good at it! We need more of these wonderful people
in this type of work, but they are not out there!


As I said they are few and far between!

Care in a nursing home..........

If you have to put one of your parents in
a nursing home, you really have to check
them out.
Go to the nursing home and look around,
ask questions about the place with the
staff and some of the residents, (in case you
don't know...the patience are called residents
instead of patience for a couple reasons.
(1st) is to make them feel more at ease by
being there, they figure if the people are referred
to as residents it would be more like home. (2nd)
is because it would seem more like a hospital or
hospital setting to be referred to as a patience all
of the time, and if the nursing home can be more
like home than it will not be so bad on the ones
that are having to live there.
Now that is what I was told, so who really knows!?

Now getting back to checking the place out, be sure
and look every where you can (and even if you aren't
allowed to-look anyway). Use your nose and smell
to see how bad it smells and how often it smells, in
what areas does it smell the worse and why. You
should really go to a facility several times before you
make up your mind.

Do not settle for one right off the bat if you can help it,
be sure and check several nursing facilities out, ASK
QUESTIONS.THAT IS VERY IMPORTANT....TO
ASK QUESTIONS! You will not learn anything if you
do not ask questions, and if you have never been to a
nursing home before then ask the people you know,
people around you like from church, or work, or if
you belong to any clubs, friends, anyone that might
help you, that will talk to you about this and that could/
would give you some insight on what to look for and
what type of questions to ask. Ask your pastor if you
have one or even go to the hospital in your area and
as if they could help you, give you an idea of who to
talk to.

The first nursing home I had to put my mother in was
straight from the hospital into one because she had to
have 24/7 care and the hospital had a list of them in
my area. The only one that would take mother right
then was so bad, but we didn't know that till we had
gotten her in and after 3 weeks I had to say enough
is more than enough! I will not go into everything that
happened at this time, but it was so bad that the last
time she ended up in the hospital from there the hospital
contacted the sate, I didn't have to! My mother was
covered in bruises from her head to her toes!
Literally covered in bruises and the nursing home
said that mother had put all of the bruises on herself!
Even the hospital said "NO WAY SHE COULD
HAVE DONE THIS TO HER SELF!"

They even did what is call SNOWED HER!
That is when the nursing home thinks that one of the
residents might be to much trouble and they decide to
give the poor person so much medicine or keep them
so medicated with meds that will keep them from know-
ing who they are, or where they are. These poor little
elder people can't talk, walk, eat or anything by their
self because of the meds that has been given to them.
"THEY TRULY DO NOT KNOW ANY THAT IS
GOING ON AROUND THEM OR TO THEM!"

I moved my mother after seeing and her going through
all of this, thank the good Lord she does not remember
any thing that happened to her. (I would not want my
worst enemy going through anything like this).

There are good nursing home facilities out there, it just
might take some work to find them, check the BBB
(Better Business Bureau) also, you would be surprised
what you could find out there.

I will be writing more about this subject in the future and
will have more detail information also on things, hopefully
with my experience it might help someone out there before
they have to go through what we did.